Firstly, TW & CW (Trigger and Content Warning) for sexual assault of young boys
Recently, rapper and anti-Gay sewer rat, Lil Boosie, made a post on Instagram, openly talking about the “gift” he’s planning on giving his (underage) son for his birthday:
Now, obviously, the most pressing issue here is the fact that a “father” is essentially forcing his young son to have sex, with no thought to this boy’s own sexual autonomy. The implication is also that Boosie would be using an adult woman for this “service.” For those who are just catching up to the basics of consent, this is child rape. I’m an abolitionist, and really not one of advocate for feeding the prison industrial complex, but…Boosie really pushes it. Like…wow.
But in this piece, I wanna expand on a point made by one of my mutuals on Twitter, about how how this practice is rooted in hatred of Gay people. Let’s be clear that men who force their sons to exhibit toxic masculinity at an early age do so, primarily because they don’t want them to display any kind of association with Gayness. I’ve discussed how, in a colonized, patriarchal society, manhood is held up as the pinnacle of all. An essential part of that is being cisgender and heterosexual. Homosexuality is seen as an opposite of “real” (i.e. cishet) manhood, therefore the antithesis of manhood, so it’s about one of the “worst” things a man can be. This is why so many people can find a rapist or murderer more worthy of protecting than a Gay man or Trans woman whose never hurt anyone. And as a side-note, given this explanation, it should be clear why many of us say that hatred of Gay men is directly tied to misogyny.
So, when cishets, upon being accused of homophobia, refute that by saying something like “But phobia means ‘fear,’ and I’m not afraid of Gay people,” I have to call complete and total bullshit. Y’all absolutely are afraid of us and you show it everyday.
Men like Lil’ Boosie, who force their sons to have sex with women, with no thought to their sexual autonomy, do so because they’re deathly afraid of their sons (or themselves) being remotely in the proximity of Gayness.
These people do mental gymnastics to justify the murder of Trans women, for simply existing and being attractive, all because they’re deathly afraid of being remotely in the proximity of Gayness (even though, once again, Trans women are women, so being attracted them isn’t Gay, anyway, but I digress).
Cishet men come up with a miles-long list of regressive, constricting, arbitrary rules that all men *have* to follow, or else we get deemed “Gay” (regardless of our actual romantic and sexual attraction). And they do this because, again, they’re deathly afraid of being remotely in the proximity of Gayness.
Anti-LGBTQ cishets routinely demonstrate that they’re occupied with avoiding association to Gayness, to an obsessive degree (and Boosie is no exception to this), yet claim they’re not afraid of us. But I can look at several prevalent behaviors exhibited by these people and safely come to the conclusion that they’re full of shit.
Also, while we’re here, let’s quickly go over another cishet lie: The idea that it’s OK to oppress LGBTQ folks because cisheterosexuality is “natural.” If this were true, if heterosexuality were so “natural,” then why would Boosie feel so pressed about his son not turning out Gay, that he’d actually force the boy to have sex, likely before he’s even ready? Shouldn’t this boy be seeking that out for himself? Also, why do “parents” have to routinely beat the Queerness out of their kids in order to get them to perform an identity that’s supposedly so “natural?” Something being “natural” implies that people would take to it with minimal outside pressure. Yet I’m constantly seeing kids be heavily pressured into performing this construct that many of y’all swear is so innate. It’s…interesting.
The lies you bigots tell.
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