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Navigating Friendships with Non-LGBTQ People

June 1, 2018 by Angry Black HoeMo

A PSA for my fellow Gay men, and perhaps anyone else in the LGBTQ community.

I’m gonna start this by laying out a little scenario:

Let’s say you’re a Gay man who primarily has non-LGBTQ (a.k.a. cisgender-heterosexual or “straight”) men as friends (which you likely applaud yourself for, daily…but that’s another issue). Y’all are just casually hanging out and they’re all talking about sex. They’re exchanging stories of their recent “conquests,” and are having an absolute ki. And then, you try to chime about your last sexual experience, in the exact same way that they just did.

…but you feel the good vibes noticeably drop. It gets awkward, and you immediately get the hint that you should back off from your story. You deflate, retreat into your own head (where you’ll likely quietly replay that moment in a cringeworthy loop), and let them take back over the conversation.

This is likely not an unfamiliar experience for Gay men who hang around folks who are non-LGBTQ. And many people’s go-to response may be to just roll with it and not see it as a big deal. But let’s be clear about one thing: [Read more…]

Filed Under: All the Magical Black Queer Things, All the Queer Things, Life and Shit Tagged With: Allies, Black, Black LGBTQ, Cisgender, Cishet, Friendship, Gay, Heterosexuality, LGBTQ, Queer

Young Thug, Gender Expression and Toxic Masculinity

September 2, 2016 by Angry Black HoeMo

Rapper Young Thug recently released a new mixtape, called My Name Is Jeffery. But what people are really talking about is the mixtape cover (pictured below). It’s drawn various reactions, many of which include people regarding it as brave, progressive and daring. Me, on the other hand? Not so much. There’s just a few things to consider.

First, he’s ultimately a cishet man, and publicly displaying themselves in a dress or other attire that’s considered feminine isn’t exactly new territory for them. As long as you go out of your way to ensure that you are, in fact, cisgender and heterosexual, you can safely throw on that dress and keep it pushing. In this existing environment, cishet men will always have more autonomy than Queer men to explore gender expression, and still maintain their safety. This is, of course, as long as they, in addition to going out of their way to assert their straightness, be sure to throw LGBTQ people under the bus, in the process (which even the beloved, late and great Prince is guilty of…just Google “Prince Homophobia”).

…which segues into the next point. [Read more…]

Filed Under: All the Magical Black Queer Things Tagged With: Cisgender, Gender, Homophobia, LGBTQ, Toxic Masculinity

DISCLAIMER: Your Cishet Feelings Are Not Safe Here (Part 2)

August 19, 2016 by Angry Black HoeMo

So, I addressed my lack of fucks to give for fragile white feelings in Part 1, but I’m Angry Black HoeMo…I wasn’t gonna only cover one side of the problematic fence. I have reads for everyone. This one is going to be a bit less focused than the last one, but it’s all things that need to be said and heard (and to clarify what you’re getting when you’re on this blog), all the same.

While we’re addressing fragile, bigoted ass people, let me go on and take a swipe at you asswipes who say crap like this:

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Filed Under: All the Magical Black Queer Things, All the Queer Things Tagged With: Angry Black Man, Bigotry, Black, Cis, Cisgender, Cishet, Gay, Homophobia, Queer, Transphobia

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